i'm tired...

of reading about relationships...

men want to know why women do this or that. women want to know why men do this or that. how about...who cares?

in the wake of tiger woods revealing he's had "indescretions", i can't help but wonder... what significance does this have on my life? it reveals that the man who seemed to do nothing but love his parents, wife, kids and golf...is merely a man. again, how does this affect me? not.at.all.

while i admit that i had my own scenario of the things that went down with tiger, i recognize that it was purely for my own entertainment. the events, in no way, help to contribute to my opinion of men in general.

here's the reality: i've dealt with some real idiots in my lifetime. with the exception of violence, i may have run the gamut of the wrong type of men to deal with. yet, i still know, with no doubt, that there are men out there that are faithful, honest, and just good people. my dad was one of those men. my granddaddy was too. more importantly, i know that the man that God has for me... is there. i may know him already, i may not...but i know he's there.

i can understand how easy it is to be discouraged...been there, done that. i wonder if the same people that are so busy trying to figure out what wrong with the opposite sex, are spending the same amount of time looking in the mirror and determining what's wrong with them. like it or not, nobody's perfect, and i know that sometimes the reason why we don't have what we want is because we're not ready for it. how many people found this out when their homes were foreclosed on because they got into loans that they just couldn't afford? this theory applies to relationships as well. if you're not a full person internally, how will you able to withstand being in a relationship?

that's what changed my discouragement to encouragement. i think that a mate is complementary to what you already are. if you're not whole, then does it make sense to bring another person into your own internal issues? even further, a complete relationship is two wholes joined together to form one whole - not two halves. so a couple of years ago, i decided to stop worrying about the external and deal with the internal.

the moral of the story is: stop worrying about why you're not in a relationship right now. don't worry about what other folks are doing. do.you. recognize your own flaws, fix them, and be the best person you can be. live your life celebrating who you are and who you're becoming! that's when the "birds of a feather" credo will apply. when you piss excellence, you'll attract someone that pisses excellence as well. *shout out to ricky bobby!!!* and perhaps, because of example, those around you will get their act together, and the negative cloud that seems to hang over male/female relationships will finally clear.